Saturday, August 31, 2013

The best birthday present

The best birthday present

The best birthday present
The best birthday present
“The best birthday present I ever got from my grandpa was a skinny black tie. It didn’t come in a bag, a box, or even rolled up in tissue paper. It came wrapped in wisdom. As soon as he gave it to me he said, “A tie would make a stronger impression on your boss if you used it as a blindfold and kidnapped him. That‘s why I bought you a black one.”
- Jarod Kintz

Sunday, August 18, 2013

Best way to deal with arguments in a relationship

Have you ever thought how some couples fight hardly, but still stay together and loving each other? It’s because they know what to dos and what to don’ts when they are in an argument or they understand each other very well mutually. But most in cases of arguments lead to separations too. So here are few concerns about the arguments for concern in an argument. 

First of all, there is a myth that, always being an argument with your partner makes you a bad partner. No, that is not. But it doesn’t mean arguing with your partner is good thing. It will make you a bad partner or a good partner, in the way you are arguing with them. When a argument is getting heat, just think, whether you carried out this argument to fix the thing or to hurt your partner. From that point, you could have, better way to do this argument. if you are doing that argument to hurt your partner, of course you are a bad human being. Otherwise, if you arguing just for fix the issue, you could turn the argument in to a discussion. 

However some arguments may lead to nightmares, if you do not care enough for what you tell or do, when you are in an argument.

Never threaten to your partner, like “I’m leaving you or want to break up with you”. Coz’ it doesn’t mean anything when you in angry mood. And your partner also may tell the same to you. So it’s never gonna fix the thing whether you really mean it or not. 

When you are arguing, if you feel you may be wrong in something, never try to just confess for hurt your partner. It means, “Yes I did that, so what?” Or “Yes… I have an affair with your friend. So?”  It’ll be like, “through straw in to the burning fire”. Don’t do it ever, if you really want your partner. Never remind the old issues to justify the case. It’s because it will lead the argument to another way, for sure. It’ll only make new points to more arguments.  
Never compare your partner to others. It’ll defiantly hurt you loved one instated of fixing or justifying things. If you do so they may tell, “So…You would have gone with him/her, why did you come to me?” You never gonna fix the issue in that way. If someone well known to you, accuses your partner of something, never use an argument to reveal to it, like. “My friend was right about you… but I never believe them”. It will make angry in her for both you and your friend. 

Don’t get involvement of a third person as a mediator or problem solver, in between you and your partner. Because it feels, you and the third person group together and try to explain why you’re right and your partner’s wrong. 

If you’re angry, just say it. Don’t pretend and say you’re fine. It won’t make you feel better nor solve the issue. Never ignore your partner after a warm argument, especially when they’re accepting for your attention. But if you really frustrated or angry with your partner just ask little Moment to be alone. It’s more better than ignoring them and making them feel miserable. Don’t blame again and again when your partner has no more to say about the issue or, when in helpless. Instead of that, make that, to a turning point toward discussion mode. 

Always try being honest with your argument. If you know already that you are wrong in something, don’t just argue to pretend you are not guilty. It’s better to try to confess it. or forget your pride and tell your partner that "I'm sorry" at least. And even if you’re right and when your partner apologizes to you, you need to tell your partner that you’re sorry too because you lost your control or because you misunderstood them. It’s the easiest way to avoid ego. So being honest in an argument, will always help your partner understand what hurt you or what you need, and they’ll be able to discuss the issue instead of arguing about it.

Don’t ever raise your hand against your partner unless self defense. Especially if you are a male it is like, you are showing and using your power over the females. It’s not nice.

But after all do you really love each others? Memorize it again and again, It will solve any issues after all arguments. Trust in your love always.

Sunday, August 11, 2013

Living together or Marriage

Today in the world, after dating most of the couples, the next step is the living together with a committed relationship. Did you ever think why this happened? People apparently think compatibility cannot be tested without the actual experience of a marriage without any legal bonds. It’s like a trial run of the marriage. However this has a good side as well as bad side.

Living together has more freedom to select his or her legal life partner. Living under one roof is more far away from the dating. It will reveal more personal details about each other’s. In here you can’t hide your real situation. From this you could easily decide what the next fate of your relationship is. This will ease the life of course. So if this period went wrong, relationship would end up like “Turning off a light”. Not much hard feelings. But in a marriage you can’t just “turn off this light”. And of course, in here you have more freedom and the very less responsibilities for both of you. Specially for men. Generally, living together is not much empowering for women. It places them in a vulnerable position, emotionally and materially, and Women generally see moving in together as a step toward marriage, but men tend to regard the relationship as more of a
physical bonding opportunity without the bonds and responsibilities of commitment.

In living together, love will not take much place like in the dating or marriage. Instead,
physical bond and independency will take place. On dating always you have a hope for future; you have more curiosity about the next step of your relationship or what’s going on next. And also Dating will keep alive your love, and in a marriage too. When you have a bond from a marriage, you always do things to your relationship with the responsibilities. And every time love will take the place. After all you may pay more attention to care about your marriage. Coz’ you know it’s not just a living together.

And also I believe, a couple who get married after living together, is more tend to be divorced than the others. It’s because, they know how to survive after the divorce, or how to face the society after the divorce. They had good experience, about the independencies. So in one hand living together is more like to be prepared for divorce rather than the marriage.

But not being living together, could we decide our next step of a relationship? Of course you can. You have plenty of opportunities for that in the dating. You could talk anything, you could do anything and you name it. Only different is you not live under one roof with your better half. However, if you want more freedom and fewer responsibilities and without bonds, only relationship with all other benefits, answer is living together. Couples must decide what works best for them.

Thursday, August 8, 2013

Do you want to fall in love with your boy-friend?

Do you like a boy? But he doesn’t care about you? Or do you love a boy? But he doesn’t love you? OK…this could happen often. So what do you do for win him? Here are some few tips to gain it.

Remember that, every boy is thinking girls as playful objects. That’s the truth. If you became a girl friend or a wife for some guy, then he may thinks about you more than playful object. It’s not wrong. And being attractive is jewel for a girl. Simply it’s an asset to a girl. And admire it.  So you must improve it doing something like, dressing well, keeping your body in good shape, avoiding chipped and chewed nails, clean and healthy hair and avoiding unhealthy appearance mainly try to keep your skin in good form. So your dream boy will think about you than before.

Try to choose proper cloths for yourself. You and your cloth must be like voice and the music in a song. It means, cloth should prominent your look. Dress like a girl. Real boys like girls; they don’t like the girls alike boys. A little bit of makeup is absolutely fine. But don’t go overboard assuming you’ll impress the guy with the fancy artwork on your face.

Don’t be a pushy girl; it’ll always be a joke. Mind your language; avoid starting or ending your sentences with cuss words. Use good words, and when you speak with him, have a little honest smile on your face. That is the best way to get a guy to notice you. If you want extra credit, make eye contact. The biggest trait that attracts guys is a girl’s femininity and sensuality. The way you walk, the way you stare at him while doing that thing with your eyes, and everything else that’s girly and feminine matters a lot to a guy.

Let him know that you are available for his happiness and sadness. Get to know about his personal life and his family matters well. So you could close to him. let your hands touch his hands occasionally, it may a good gesture, for let him know that you like him. 

The other most important thing is if you really love him; tell him how you really feel in yourself. Tell him you’re really happy with him. But are afraid of the future because you have no idea what could happen after this. If he has any sense, he’ll know it’s time for him to make some assurances to you. Don’t hide your emotions or play with words. And if he really does love you, he won’t be upset to hear that. Instead, he’ll say something that makes you feel better.

So finally this guy may truly falling love with you, but he may not be interested in marriage. Can you deal with that? If you can’t handle that, and are really serious about getting married soon, it’s probably time to ask yourself if you’re with the right guy for you.

And the same time remember that, every boy is looking for a girl who is dreaming in his mind. That dream girl’s main profile or fact may be about the body complexion, or hair color, slim, fat, it may vary. It means, each other’s desires are different. So if he is not looking for a girl like you, there is nothing you could do here. Don’t try to change yourself for him. It never gonna achieve. You just move and find someone who likes who you are now.

Sunday, August 4, 2013

The way to propose a girl

Asking from a girl or propose to a girl is one of the main event of boys life. Of course, perhaps a girl might ask from a boy too. But as a percentage, those chances are very few. So confessing your love to a girl may be scary event. Actually there are not any basics here. Just follow your natural instinct. That is the best. But it may easy for you to have clues about it though.

Sometime it happens a guy hides his loving feelings for his (Girl) friend, until the point where she starts dating with a new guy. So, this may work in the movies a lot, but in real life, if you ever do something like that, you’re definitely setting yourself up for failure. If you feel love about a girl who is already a friend of yours, you have a good chance to go through this. But if you don’t know much about this girl yet, you have to do some efforts. 

If you don’t know about the girl, you have to approach her in a way or other. But remember that first impression is the most important. Is she someone you walk past occasionally? or she is around you on day to day life?Then it will be a warm smile with expressing good wishes (Ex: Good morning) at first. So this will lead to a chat in days for sure.

Keep remember that if you are having a chat, girls tend to look at your face, so don't immediately assume that she likes you. When you talk with her, look directly at her. While talking, make sure to look at her face and specifically her eyes. Pay more attention to what she is saying, so when she asks you something or stops talking, you can continue the conversation intelligently. Don't get caught staring at her body.  If she doesn't look at you or she ignores you, step back, and leave her alone for a while. Some girls don't like looking in the eyes and talking. Read her body language instead. And always remember to dress in well and clean. 

Make her feel comfortable around you, doing by good humor. Be very simple. Try to talk with some funny. Charm her and compliment her often. Let her see that you notice the little things about her that makes her pretty. If she’s wearing something nice, compliment her about it. If she looks great, tell her she looks really pretty.

If you feel she comfort with your association, Try to spend more times with her. if no one’s around, even better. In this way she will get more comfortable with you. Not only that, then she feels missing your company, when you are not around her. That’s a good sign. When you are not around her, try to call her, asking some advices and helps from her. Try to do things together. Let her know that being around her, is feels good you too. 
If you passed above steps and still that girl is being with you means, the girl you like would most probably really like you too. But just to make sure she likes you a lot in a more-than-just-friends call her late at night or text. You could start this by texting late in the evenings, and work your way to texts in bed within a few days.

So now give it a “go”. When the time is right, ask her for a date. Ask her to go the movies or something else you both would be interested in. You could also invite her out to restaurant for a lunch. Or after emotional conversation at a late night, you could ask for a date. Or when both of you are sitting next to each others on a bench.  Of course may be on a phone, if you a little shy guy. If she says "no", smile and respond gracefully by saying, "No problem! May be some other time." and change the conversation to something else.

Don’t try to confess your feelings for a girl until she begins to like you too. Shocking a girl with an unexpected confession of love is a worst thing you can do, because it’ll almost always end with her rejecting you. After all, confessing your love to a girl is the easy part. But if you want to avoid any kind of rejection and want to ensure that she’d say yes to you, do your way into your heart so she can actually like you and fall for you. When the moment’s right, pour your heart out to her and confess your love for her.

But you need to remember that the worst thing a girl could say is “no”. Of course, it’ll hurt. But think of it this way, by not telling a girl how you feel, you’re only making yourself feel miserable. And what would you do if another guy starts making a move on this girl you love?