Friday, May 24, 2013

Love has a limit and at some point it's a criminal !!!

In a one life time of a person, could love several people. Not even love, if they want could live together until they realize they are ready to go further under one roof. Ultimately they could marry an only one person. Marriage is the finest honor which could give for a love in a civilized society.  And it’s the legal agreement that saying “I love you, till I die no matter what”.

But at some point, after married, they may find better person to love. Then “Boom….” In here, anybody could call “This is wrong” to love another, after married. So that’s how civilized society looks for it.

But is it really wrong? I mean it’s a feeling. That person may have a more strong feeling of love about new lover than the married one. So what’s the matter? As a human, couldn’t stop our prime feeling easily. Because we born to do love. But in here, we try to civilize our feeling of love as could as possible by a law . But in this situation, if they not married already, then they could just walk away from each other and make their new love.  So it’s obvious that, we try to rule the love as much we could. Not like other feelings, love is wonderful and spiritual feeling in our lives, our lives mainly depending on that. but when civilized law comes in to the love it has a limit. sometimes its funny when thinks, "we cannot love as we want, due to the law".   so still "Love" has a limit just like any other things in this world. not only that in this situation doing love is a Criminal. what do you think?

Thursday, May 9, 2013

Commit suicide for love, is the true love?

People get so hurt from love and they even commit suicide on behalf of love. Actually they may do this for broken love. When they die for broken love they used to call it as true love. But is it really true love in there?

No its not. Who is responsible for your pain that you feel? Your pain was created by yourself. What you planted in your mind will come as harvest. If you planted desire in your mind, defiantly someday it will come as an agony in your mind. You can’t blame on anybody. Your own mind has created all your thoughts and expectations. If you have a bad relationship with someone, you would create a mentality that love hurts. Love gives pain. You would start blaming love for the pain you received from your relationship. But love did not do anything. You are the creator of your pain. You are the creator of your own expectations. You used the word “Love” to prove the intensity of your feelings. Love doesn’t hurt anyone. You create your own pain and put the blame on love. Did that person force you to love? You loved for your own requirements, for the requirement in your mind. Keep remember that nobody can ever force someone to love. It’s because, love is an extremely personal feelings that can be created only by yourself in your own mind. And the other hand if someone doesn’t like us, how we force them to love us? It’s completely not ethical. Everybody has rights for decide what they want or don’t, as a human. So…when someone refuses us, if we try to terminate our life, is it a true love? Or at lease is there any love in there? No way… it’s just a foolish thing for commit suicide for breaking up with someone.

However, if you really hurt about your broken love, it’s good to think deeply, what was the root course for your pain. Firstly, your partner may break up with you due to your own mistake or your bad habits. In that case you are the person who led the way your relationship to the breaking point. But it is still not worth to give death penalty for yourself as a punishment, for what you’ve done. Learn from your mistakes and bad habits; try to convince your partner sometime it works. Secondly, if your partner is just leaving you, and if she or he does not love you anymore, or he or she is going after another one, why do you worry about them? Or why you do you worry about you? Please let them go away. They are not worth for you. So why you commit suicide for a person who doesn’t even think about you?

So still do you believe commit suicide for love, is the truelove?

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Unconditional Love

Most of the time, when we love someone, love starts with some expectations in our mind. It means we expect love in return. This is normal and common for everyone. But I believe, True love is always unconditional.

What unconditional love means? A feeling is something we get from someone, and when we stop getting it, we often change our behavior somehow. If we have to do something, or be a certain way, in order to receive love, that love is conditional love. In practically, when you love someone, you generally create some expectations from the person you love. Like: I love you, so you should also love me. I always try to make you happy, so you should also make me happy. There are many small expectations we create every day. you feel happy when any of your expectations get fulfilled. But whenever it doesn’t happen, it starts creating pain in you. So it means you do not love him or her, you just love only for yourself.  You do all this things to make your happiness in return.

But the same time if you love someone unconditionally, and if that person doesn’t know about, what is the mean of the real love is, you are jeopardizing your life for sure. Suppose you love your partner unconditionally and your partner doesn’t care about your love or you. So still, are you  going to love that person?. If you say “yes”. Of course it’s an unconditional love. But it may cause a pain for you, in the way you think about it. If you think, “It’s no matter how she treats me, I love her”, you are a perfect lover. But it’s once in a blue moon.

So what’s the scientific side of unconditional love? In a study conducted by Mario Beauregard and his colleagues, using an fMRI (Functional magnetic resonance imaging)procedure, they studied the brain imaging of participants who were shown different sets of images either referring to "maternal love" (unconditional love) or "romantic love". Seven areas of the brain became active when these participants called to mind feelings of unconditional love. Three of these were similar to areas that became active when it came to romantic love. The other four active parts were different, showing certain brain regions associated with rewarding aspects, pleasurable (non physical) feelings, and human maternal behaviors are activated during the unconditional love portions of the experiment. Through the associations made between the different regions, results show that the feeling of love for someone without the need of being rewarded is different from the feeling of romantic love.